Everyone's needs are different, but I think it comes down to two things; respect and trust. So many men get this wrong, that dominant = degrading. I don't want to be degraded….ever. Even if it's only in my head, I'm a fucking goddess, and if you need to put me down to be in control a) you suck, and b) go find someone else, because I'm not for you. A good Dom is in charge and clearly has control. But in my head, they are doing it for me. I'm being asked to submit that control, but it's on my terms. And if I feel like they have my best interests in mind, I can trust them to use that control and that power how they see fit, because I know that I'm going to be ok. With that trust in place, I will close my eyes and let you lead me wherever you see fit, my body is yours, have your way with me, because I know that your goal is my pleasure, and we both want me coming back for more. 🫦